Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough? Like you’re not smart enough, successful enough, or attractive enough? You’re not alone. Many of us struggle with feelings of inadequacy, but the good news is that it is possible to overcome these feelings and learn to love and accept ourselves for who we are. In this blog post, I will share some tips from renowned therapist and author Marisa Peer on how to feel “enough” in every aspect of your life.
I believe that one of the main reasons we feel inadequate is because we are too hard on ourselves. We compare ourselves to others and set unrealistic standards for ourselves. To overcome this, we need to learn to be more compassionate towards ourselves. This means being kind and understanding when we make mistakes, and not beating ourselves up over them. It also means not comparing ourselves to others and recognising that we are all unique and special in our own way.
Change your self-talk
Another reason we feel inadequate is because of the negative thoughts and beliefs we have about ourselves. These thoughts can be self-fulfilling and can lead to feelings of low self-worth. To overcome this, we need to change the way we talk to ourselves. Instead of focusing on our flaws and shortcomings, we should focus on our strengths and accomplishments. We should also be mindful of the negative thoughts that come into our minds and replace them with positive affirmations.
Learn to accept compliments
Many of us have a hard time accepting compliments. We brush them off or make excuses for why they aren’t true. But accepting compliments is an important step in learning to love ourselves. When someone gives us a compliment, we should simply say “thank you” and believe it. This will help us to see ourselves in a more positive light and boost our self-esteem.
Take responsibility for your happiness
Lastly, I believe that we are responsible for our own happiness. This means that we shouldn’t rely on external validation or approval to feel good about ourselves. Instead, we should learn to find happiness within ourselves. This can be done by setting and achieving personal goals, practicing gratitude, and engaging in activities that bring us joy.
In conclusion, feeling “enough” is a journey and it takes time, patience, and perseverance. But by practicing self-compassion, changing your self-talk, learning to accept compliments, and taking responsibility for your happiness, you can learn to love and accept yourself for who you are. Remember, you are enough, just as you are.